The Complete Online Dating Safety Guide for Adults
Most online dates are perfectly pleasant. A few simple habits make sure yours are too. This guide covers your safety from the moment you create a profile to the end of a first date.
1. Protect your privacy from the start
- Use a first name or nickname, not your full name.
- Don't show your workplace, home street, or car number plate in photos.
- Use photos that aren't on your public social media, so a reverse image search doesn't lead straight to your accounts.
- Keep your phone number private until you've met and feel comfortable. Many apps offer in-app voice and video calls.
2. Verify the person you're talking to
- Look for the app's verified badge, and verify your own profile.
- Ask for a short video call before meeting. Someone genuine rarely objects.
- Be cautious if their photos look like a model shoot, their story keeps changing, or they avoid any live contact.
3. Plan a safe first date
- Meet in a busy public place such as a café, bar or restaurant.
- Arrange your own transport there and back.
- Tell a friend who you're meeting, where and when, and share your location if you're comfortable.
- Keep an eye on your drink and order it yourself.
- Keep the first date short. You can always plan a second.
4. Trust your instincts
If something feels off, it's fine to leave. You don't owe anyone an explanation. A simple "I'm going to head off, take care" is enough. Many venues will help if you quietly ask staff.
5. Consent, every time
Consent is clear, freely given, and can be withdrawn at any moment. Check in with your date and respect their answer, and expect the same in return.
6. Money: the bright red line
Never send money, gift cards or cryptocurrency to someone you met on a dating app, however convincing the story. Read our guide on how to spot romance scams.
7. Report and block
Every major app lets you report and block. Use it for harassment, threats, scams or fake profiles. It protects the next person too. If you are ever in danger, contact local emergency services.